This account focuses on some of the tell-tale signs of an abusive relationship and how a series of small little things, when added together, start to build a broader story of a ‘pattern’ of abusive behaviours.
Recognising the Signs of Domestic Abuse
* Jealousy
* Possessiveness
* Unpredictability
* A bad temper
* Cruelty to animals
* Verbal abuse
* Controlling behaviour
* Antiquated beliefs about roles of women and men in relationships
* Forced sex or disregard of their partner's unwillingness to have sex
* Sabotage of birth control methods or refusal to honour agreed upon methods
* Blaming the victim for anything bad that happens
* Sabotage or obstruction of the victim's ability to work or attend school
* Controls all the finances
* Abuse of other family members, children or pets
* Accusations of the victim flirting with others or having an affair
* Control of what the victim wears and how they act
* Demeaning the victim either privately or publicly
* Embarrassment or humiliation of the victim in front of others
* Harassment of the victim at work
* Hyper-Critical or Judgmental Towards You
* Ignore Boundaries or Invade Your Privacy
* Manipulative
* Dismiss You and Your Feelings